Please click on the following link, read, and come back: Welcome to Holland
Seriously, click the link and come back. It’s short and worth the read. I promise.
This is the best analogy I’ve ever heard about dealing with any type of a special need (especially with children) – physical, social, emotional, or anything in between. We all have our dreams or expectations of what it will be like to be a parent. When the realization hits you that your exact dreams are not going to happen…it’s a bit devastating. But…ultimately it comes down to doing what you need to do for the well-being of your child(ren) because you love them. You switch gears and adapt. I absolutely LOVED the Holland analogy.
I think the most important element from the story, for me, was remembering the fact that I do have lovely aspects of Holland all around me. It’s time to do some more sight seeing around here.